Good morning, dear friends!
I know Mother’s Day is on a lot of your minds. It is a hard day for so many of you who have lost your wife, mom, an infant, or an adult or young child.
A lot of these special days can be painful. Sometimes the anticipation of the pain is almost worse than how it turns out. Other times, it can be extremely challenging as you watch others celebrate with their loved ones who are still with them. There will be a temptation to be angry, bitter or envious.
It is best to have some kind of plan in place. However you used to celebrate this day, it has definitely changed and you cannot make it go back the way it was–no matter how badly you want to. But you can certainly make a simple plan how you will face this day and still honor your loved one in some way. The following are simply examples. You may come up with something as unique as your precious loved one.
*Plant a rose bush or some other perennial type flower in their honor.
*Write them a Mothers’ Day letter or card telling them what you appreciate about them.
*If you lost a baby or child, write a letter with all your dreams and hopes you had for them.
*Write a letter to the Lord telling Him thank You for the gift He gave you through them.
*Go to church to thank God for the gift He gave you in them.
*Wear something that signifies them in your life (necklace, white flower, a hat…) Be ready to tell others you are wearing it for them. That’s all you have to say unless you want to say more.
*If you are ready (and only if and when) you could give something of theirs to another mom or child in remembrance of them
*Or get them a gift you know they would like and find someone to give it to.
*Eat their favorite meal.
*Watch their favorite movie or read their favorite book.
Yes, some of these or other things you might have thought of, sound painful but it will actually help in the long run. It is important to review your life together, no matter how long or short the time you had with one another. One of the most important purposes of grief is to reflect and be able to be thankful for their life. When you do that, it helps you be able to find a way to go on until you are reunited forever.
Also, don’t feel guilty for taking a break from grief to laugh, smile and enjoy a moment. I won’t say “Happy Mothers’ Day” but I will pray that it becomes a richer, deeper, more meaningful day because of the love you share with your loved one.
Love and prayers.
“Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her…” Proverbs 31:28