“How can I move forward?” was the simple lone post by someone grieving his other half. Since it wasn’t posted on this group and I don’t have permission to say his name, I will use it as a question almost every griever asks at some point. Before answering this question, let me just say that I am not an expert on YOUR grief. Every single person has to go through this lonely journey on their own, in their own way—yet I hope you discover, like I did, that you are never ever truly alone. I’m also fully aware everyone is at a different place on their journey. Some reading this are at the very beginning. I am praying for my dear friend who is having a service today for her 46 year old daughter. I’m also praying for the brokenhearted husband and children. Another friend just rang the bell completing chemo. She was diagnosed less than a month after her husband’s death and is coming up on the year anniversary of his passing.
Now back to the question, “How can I move forward?” The answer: one day at a time…sometimes one moment at a time…one step at a time. Any griever knows that it is definitely not a straight smooth path. One moment you can be smiling at a precious memory, another minute might bring overwhelming sobs that make you feel like you are literally drowning. Another moment you may be laughing at the silliest thing that might not even be that funny. Anger can can in an instant over some simple thing some well-meaning person says. The next moment might bring panic over a bill, trial or the thought of facing something that you always did together with your loved one. Grief can involve the craziest, most emotional roller coaster ride of your life. It won’t always be so hard. It is a part of your earthly journey that you have to go through—one step at a time.
It can be the loneliest journey as it seems no one understands. Yet it can also be the time when You discover the greatest Comforter, Companion, Guide, Counselor, Friend—the One who understands you better than you understand yourself—the One who is always awake, ready to listen, holding you when you can’t take another step—the One who never ever leaves you. No one else can be there for every single step except the Lord.
After my young husband’s death, they used to sing an old song at my church about walking the lonesome valley by myself. It was so sad that I had to leave during the song. It wasn’t until later in my journey that I stayed for the second verse which told how Jesus walks it with me. There will be joy in the journey ahead. Take hold of His hand for each step. He will lead you through—and lead you all the way Home one step at a time.
Love and prayers,
“Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for You are with me; Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me.” Psalm 23:4
“He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength, They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.” Isaiah 4029-31
“Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.” Matthew 5:4