I got a phone call this morning that reminded me once again that my children (and my grandchildren) do not belong to me. I may love them with all my heart. I may have an unbreakable bond with them since they came from my womb or became part of my heart through years of investment of prayers, work and teaching. All the tears cried, dreams shared, games cheered at, meals prepared, laundry washed, prayers prayed, constant sacrifice—none of those entitle me to their now-independent adult lives. I do not have the right to demand loyalty, returned love, or gratefulness for all I did. Those years of giving were motivated by love. Love cannot demand its own way. Loving my children involves preparing and aiming them toward their full potential for Your glory, Lord.
These wonderful amazing adults I see before me were never mine to begin with. There is no way I could create them out of nothing, You, Lord, are the One who made each one with an incredibly unique personality and gifts to bless the world. You placed them individually in my life either through birth, marriage or foster/adoption. They each have enlarged my heart and spirit with the ever-growing love as each season of life that has passed. You simply placed these special souls in my life and gave me an assignment to love them, care for them, teach them Your ways and prepare them to be sent out into this world. That’s why I can handle this morning’s phone call.
As one of my adult children considers the possibility of moving far away, the very best thing I can do for them is to pray with them for that decision. Is it Your will for their life? (I truly want Your will as opposed to mine for Your children’s lives, Lord). You are the only One who knows how this decision will affect generations to come. You are the only One who knows how each soul involved will be impacted by such a choice. I dare not tell them they need to stay close to me to fulfill my wants. Their lives are not about me. Their lives belong to You. After all, You loaned them to me for a season. You have let me share in Your love for them. Lead them, Lord. They are Your children.
“Sons (and daughters) are a heritage from the Lord, children a reward from Him. Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are sons (and daughters) born in one’s youth.” Psalm 127:3-4
“Yet to all who received Him, to those who believed in His name, He gave the right to become children of God—children born not of natural descent, nor of human decision or a husband’s will, but born of God.” John 1:12-13
“How great is the love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are!” 1 John 3:1
Your Prayer Prompt-
Father, do I realize that my children belong to You? That they are Your children? That I am responsible for Your children You’ve placed in my care?