Since my children were spread out in ages, there were children in our home I was actively raising for over 33 years. Parenting has been a huge part of my life. Of course, you never stop being a parent but it definitely changes when they move out to begin their own lives. I never dreamed my house would stay clean, I could enjoy quiet, and every moment was not taken up washing clothes, doing dishes, making meals, being chauffer, trying to settle sibling squabbles, and wiping noses. Now I find myself in the role of being a “parent encourager.”
I cannot count the conversations with my adult children who are now parents (and parents of the children in my work in child care) as they vent their joys, frustrations and struggle with what they think are failures. So often, they look completely exhausted, frazzled and defeated when they begin their conversations…then as they finally begin to recall the cute things their little ones did or admire the good qualities they notice in their teens, it all becomes worth it. They are once again recharged and ready to go back at it again. They don’t need my advice as much as my encouragement. They are in the trenches…they are doing what needs to be done to raise incredible adults.
Father, I look back at my active parenting years and stand amazed at what we had to endure. I look at these incredible adults who I happened to give birth to and help through their formative years. I can’t believe I had anything at all to do with the amazing people they are today. I even admire what they do as parents. Some things they have carried on from our parenting, and other things are different. Most of that is due to the fact that their children are unique individuals created by You, knowing they would need these specific parents to help form them.
Parenting is one of the hardest jobs there is. There is no guarantee they will be thanked. It takes great sacrifice. It costs more than can be calculated. You learn as you go. Parents become the expert on their particular children. It is exhausting yet their children are depending on them. Father, today I pray for and lift up parents who are actively giving it all they’ve go to parent. I pray they don’t do it alone. May they come to You, Lord, for all they need- refreshment for each day, wisdom from Your word, eyes to see progress, a heart which hears past angry outbursts, amazing grace to forgive their children’s mistakes, strength to teach them right from wrong, wisdom to know they need You and to teach their children that they need You, as well. Father, You are our Ultimate Parent who knows what it is like. I know You will encourage parents today.
“And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds.” Hebrews 10:24
“Be imitators of God, therefor, as dearly beloved children and live a life of love, just as Christ loved us and gave Himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.” Ephesians 5:1-2 (Just as our children learn by imitating us)
“These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.” Deuteronomy 6:6-7
Your Prayer Prompt-
Father, which parents can I encourage today?