Thoughts to Help Someone Grieving
- Hug them and cry with them, limiting your own words
- “I love you” and “I’m praying for you” are never wrong to say
- Share your best memories of their loved one (in person or in writing)
- Share a photo or video you have of their loved one (they are priceless)
- Send cards, texts or messages on a regular basis to let them know you are thinking and praying for them (even months after the death)
- Listen to them without analyzing or giving advice. They need to talk out their grief.
- Follow their lead. At times they might not want to talk. They might need a break from grief for a bit.
- Be gentle with them. They have incurred a major injury and it takes time to recover
- Invite them for dinner or a movie but realize they might be experiencing a wave of grief at that time and may back out. Let them know it’s ok and you will ask again.
- They might be open to practical help like fixing a car, mowing the yard, doing some laundry- things that must be done but seem incredibly overwhelming at this time.
- Try not to interfere when they wrestle with God. Grief brings up anger, doubts, regrets, unfinished business in their relationship. Trust God to help them work through these issues.
- Give them a copy of My Forever Memories of You interactive memory book available in adult or children/youth versions (paperback or ebook)
- Commit to pray for them as they work through grief.
- Resist urge to correct them or advise them
- Listen to their brokenness and then give it to God so He can help them
- Encourage them to participate in a grief group like My Forever Memories of You group on Facebook
- Gently point them towards the eternal hope that God offers
- Know that each person travels through grief differently. Be willing to stand by them for the long haul.
“Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.” Galatians 6:2